What to do when you feel like you suck shit and have nothing to offer anyone.

I’d like to start with fuck feelings and the negative thoughts that sometimes come with them I mean really, who can relate to this? Every once in a while, I feel like the world is closing in on me and nothing I do will ever mean anything. Like right now. That being said, I know it’s a lie because I have taught myself to recognize this pattern and see it for what it is. FUCKING BULLSHIT.

Even though right at this very moment I feel like my writing, my videos, my posts and everything else that I’ve been working on recently is, for the most part, dog shit (and not helping anyone), here I am writing about exactly that, hoping that in some way someone will relate to these types of feelings and get something out of this. Only because I was able to recognize these feelings as inner unmanageability.

If an example of outer unmanageability was getting wasted and getting charged with disorderly conduct then inner unmanageability’s equivalent would be our minds negative reaction to our expectations not being met. (Feelings of inadequacy, insecurity, or anger are a few examples.)

So what to do?  Well if we can’t see it then we can’t fix it.

FIRST we have to be able to recognize that its inner unmanageability, bullshit, lies that we are telling ourselves in order to cope with the uncertainty of success. Recognize it as such, accept it, and keep moving forward.

SECOND check to see if our expectations were logical or unrealistic. In my experience 9 times out of 10, these feelings come as a result of unrealistic expectations. Make sure that you take an honest look at what your expectations for whatever the situation may have been, and decide whether or not you are asking a bit too much of someone or something including and most importantly yourself.

And THIRD, adjust the expectations accordingly. If I am in a relationship and something is bothering me sometimes I close off and just (unrealistically) expect the person I’m with to know that I’m upset, know why I’m upset and fix that shit. Well if this were the situation I would have to recognize that these are unrealistic expectations and openly communicate with the person what was actually going on with me in order for them to have any shot at helping me through it. Although it doesn’t always work out that way you can see how this would be a more efficient way of handling the situation and would avoid a lot of headaches and further arguments.

These three steps can and will apply to almost any situation. If used, they can help you to get through struggles much quicker, and the faster we get through any situation causing us pain the faster we can feel better and start being productive again. I hate sitting in my misery and when I use these 3 steps it makes the process of getting through the negative bullshit that will sometimes creep into my head much faster.

Hope this helps. Please comment and let me know if it helped, if it didn’t, or if you would like me to go in further detail with any of the content.

 

 

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