Changing your values, changes your life.

 

So currently my highest regarded values are intelligence, hard work, and self-discipline. What’s crazy about that is that these values were developed over the last two and a half years. Key word Developed.

My current value system is what allows me to do the things I do with my body and my life. All of my choices are based off of my values. I learned about value systems through reading books. Self-education is one of the biggest assets to the development of my mindset. My MINDSET is fucking fierce.

The point I am trying to make is that what we do in life (OUR ACTIONS AND BEHAVIORS) are based on our value system and beliefs. If we want to achieve a certain goal, pursue a certain career, become a certain person, then we have to develop a value system that is congruent with those realities. If I value the instant gratification of pizza more than I value self-discipline then I’m going to eat fucking pizza. If my goal is to lose 20 pounds and I know that I cannot eat brownies then I have to value the focus, dedication, and discipline involved with reaching that goal more than I value brownies. I fucking love brownies, they are amazing. But you know what I love more than brownies? The pride and integrity involved with living a life that is congruent to my values and beliefs.

Now the most amazing part of all of this is that my values and beliefs were specifically chosen, strengthened and developed by me in accordance with my goals. I knew what the fuck I wanted, I figured out what it would take and who I would need to become to get it, and I executed. If I truly in my heart wanted to become a kindergarten teacher, then I would certainly have to develop patience, empathy, acceptance, communication skills and flexibility. I could do that and so could you. You may not be the most patient person, but do you think all the kindergarten teachers out there were blessed with unfaltering patience? Fuck no. We can become whoever we need or want to be to get the things we want in life.

Two and a half years ago I was a using drug addict. I was selfish, self-centered, dishonest, hopeless and defeated. I valued drugs, instant gratification, and aversion. Do you think those character traits and values got me to where I am today?

At the most basic level I realized I was meant for more and decided to do whatever it took to change my life. It has been a long journey of self-discovery and growth to get to where I am now but it wasn’t by mistake. I MADE A CHOICE TO GO AFTER WHAT I WANTED. A better life.

Since that choice I have made a lot of other choices. Some good and some bad. Self-improvement is a learning experience. You learn about yourself, what you like and what you don’t. You learn what works for you and what doesn’t. You learn who you are and who you want to be. You fail and run your head into the wall over and over until you break through it, or go over it and then you grow.

If you are not where you want to be in life and YOU’RE NOT DOING ANYTHING TO CHANGE IT, then it’s your fucking fault. It’s not life’s fault, it’s not your circumstances, it isn’t your kids, or your lack of options. IT IS YOUR FAULT. Take responsibility for your life and make some fucking changes. NO ONE IS COMING TO SAVE YOU. I’m not fucking special or gifted, I was given no advantages to make the changes I have in my life. I decided what I wanted and became willing to make the effort to get it.

Here is an anonymous quote that hopefully will impact you the way it impacted me. “Someone once told me the definition of Hell: The last day you have on earth, the person you became will meet the person you COULD have become.”

Go out there today and get what you were meant to have. The career, the body, the hobby, the money, the girl, the guy. Become the person who would attract and attain these things and they will be yours.

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